Sharing is not Instinctive!

How often do you share a post on facebook, Linkedin, email and umpteen other social media platforms? Have you ever that it's pretty easy for some but few of us may even struggle in doing just a little thing like clicking a "share" button on our webpage? Why? Let's find out!

Mona was affronted by her two and a half-year-old daughter's behaviour when she took her to play with a friend's child. She says, "Initially, the two children were just playing parallel without really interacting. Then my friend's daughter began to play with my daughter's toy car and all hell broke loose. My daughter started screaming till she was red in the face. Then there was a tug-of-war between the two children for the toy and I just didn't know what to do. And as if this was not enough, my daughter insisted on taking one of the fancy dolls of friend’s daughter when we went home."

Has it happened to you as a parent? These incidents leave us wondering at the child’s selfishness and entertain doubts if they will grow out of this type of behaviour. We as parents have a tendency to evaluate children's behaviour from a patronizing adult viewpoint. However, if we questioned our own parents we are bound to find similar selfish incidents in our own past. 
 
 

Sharing is not instinctive

Remember! There is no magic wand to develop this value as the children are not born with an innate sharing instinct. There is no specific age when children magically become unselfish and willing to share. Sharing is something that develops with maturity and every child matures at his or her own pace. However, the right environmental influences can give them a push in the right direction. Children learn to share more quickly in a household where adults give and take and exhibit cooperative behaviour. Some children take longer to share than others because they have the kind of temperament that is resistant to change. 

Though I am not an expert too but here are some cool tips on teaching your child to share

• Do not label and discuss your child for his/her selfish behavior with your relatives/friends.

• Learning by imitation is the proven mantra at this stage. Make it a point to highlight when you are sharing with others and appreciate each other for even a small sharing.
• Accept the fact that there are some things that your child will just not be willing to share. In such a case, when you invite other children over to play, help him/her identify those toys that fall into the 'hands off' category and put them away before the other children arrive. In this way, you can pre-empt skirmishes over toys.

• Your child must be aware that just as s/he is possessive about his/her things, s/he must learn to respect other's possessions too.

• Lay down some ground rules at the start. For instance, tell him/her that s/he will only be allowed to invite other children over if s/he shares her/his toys. Or, you can tell that s/he will have to share the new video game with his/her brother or forfeit playing with it at all.

• Create situations at home where your child will have no alternative but to share. For instance, if another child has come over give them one set of crayons between the two of them.

• If your child is having a hard time sharing, you may need to supervise her playtime and encourage him/her to share not as a “helicoptering” parent but very discreetly.

• Praise your child every time she shares or makes an unselfish gesture.

Last but not the least, you share your time with your child today, he/she will do the same in future. After all it’s a matter of give and take. Happy Sharing and if this helped, please share your sweet-little experiences with us.

Flaunting your flaws...

What is your greatest strength? Time management, multi-tasking, focussed approach so on and so forth.  Easy to answer? And what about your

 weakness?  And most of us go numb. What to answer and how to answer? The most common question asked during the interviews. What do you think interviewer is looking for by asking these questions?

You guessed it right... it is to see your confidence, your smartness and above all self- actualization. Self- awareness is the first step towards growth and the better you know yourself, better you will be able to perform in any arena of life.

How best to flaunt your flaws? The simple way is to learn from this video.

Remember! We are not perfect and can never be. The best we can do is to identify our flaws and present it or rather use it in such a way that it becomes a strength. Need I say more.... :)

Ek Nanha Sapna

खिलोनो की दुकान से दूर हाथों मे

कुछ सिक्के गिनते मैने उसे देखा,

एक अनाथ बचे की आँखों मे

मैने बचपन को मरते देखा

थी चाह उसे भी नये कपड़े पहनने की

पर उन्ही पुराने कपड़ो को मैने उसे सॉफ करते देखा

तुमने देखा कभी चाँद पे बैठा पानी

मैने उसके रुखसार पे बैठे देखा .

हम करते हैं सदा अपने गमो की नुमाइश

उसे मैने गमो मे मुस्कुराते देखा

नही थे मा बाप उसके

उसे मा का प्यार ओर पिता के हाथों की कमी महसूस करते देखा.

जब किसी ने पूछा “बचे क्या चाहिए तुम्हे”

तो उसे चुप छाप मुस्कुरकर ना मे सर हिलाते देखा

थी वो उमर बहोत छोटी अभी

पर उसके अंदर मैने ज़मीर को पलते देखा

रात को सारे शहर की चमक मे

मैने उसे हस्ते हुए बेबस चेरे को देखा

उड़ते हुए हवाई जहाज़ो मे

मैने उसके एक सपने को पलते देखा

कोई मनाता है जशन

कोई रहता है तरसता

मैने वो देखा जो किसी ने नही देखा

अपने जैसे कुछ ओर बच्चो मे

मैने उसे ज़िंदगी जीते देखा

जम्मू की उन राहों मे

मैने उसे बिना दिल के शान से जीते देखा

शान से जीते देखा