Hello!!
May I borrow a minute of yours? Can we start talking
again?
We live in a time of rapid change and uncertainty. We are
merely the latest in a line of thousands of generations to inherit at this time
tasted ability.
We, as a society, really have no idea how suffocated
people are in their own emotions where change is constant. Everyone is holding
back their vulnerabilities to maintain the social image of a confident and most
happy person on the earth. Most people have just no one to express themselves
to open up their heart.
The tiny moments of life are gazing on screens.
People are get acquainted, exchange contacts, met offline and continue the
conversation more of online thus the vicious circle goes on within
known strangers.
Now we are momentarily opting out. Hardly there are heart-to-heart
conversations. The jazzy chats are superficially artificial and shallow.
And most of the times we unknowingly filled ourselves with empty defenses in
support.
Most of people can't even talk to their life-partners
openly for the fear of being judged or rejected. Emotions replaced by new
emojis daily. Ever cautious social images ensure that weakness is not
glorified.
We are just plugged in. Children have bottled up stress. Young
people suffer with anxiety and depression. This is happening to every one
i.e. Gen X to Millennials. But why do we have to run through this
situation?
We have WhatsApp, Snapchat, Podcast and many forms of
social media; the lure of computer cuddle is just irresistible.
The face-to-face type talking, the “just-listen-to-me”
type talking, the “hold-my-hand-and-let-me-cry” type talking,
the “sit-next-to-me-and-listen-to-my-silence” type talking...
the talking where the person can be themselves and say anything they feel
without the fear of any judgement or loss or rejection.
Today we are not exactly fond of that type of talking. Those conversations when
someone begins to undress one's mind. In fact, we try to avoid people. And so,
mental illness is epidemic with stress and anxiety and depression.
Is it lack of non-judgmental friendships, social
supports?
Is it due to fast and busy lives where nobody has time
to just sit and watch someone cry?
Is it result of instant and impatient lifestyle
practices, that emotions have started feeling like waste of time?
Our ancestors had neither. They talked to each other.
They were talking helps. And there was an exercise of genuine warmth, exhibit a
willingness to show concern for other people’s interests and needs and
commitments.
Let us talk without any fear. Let us create more
conversations. Lack of conversation leads to lots of misunderstanding. Let
us restart the practice again. In cases there is not much we can do; at least
we can offer a listening! Let's start talking again and live
life with series of conversations.
As Mark Twain said, "Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation".
A Bong next door girl by birth, Gujju homemaker and a
service professional. Turns into an experimental food passionate with a sensory
rendezvous into mind after marriage. Loves storytelling, sometimes captivated
with photography. The smell of books escapes voyage into another world or
words, cocooned with serenity, peace and joy. Live by principles and
purposeful mind. Believes that journey of life is hard by yard, but by the inch
it’s a cinch! Finds beauty in everything!
